Caring for an aging loved one requires navigating a labyrinth of policies, procedures, prejudices, and dangerous assumptions. Every twist and turn of events assaults the mind and heart with confusion, fear, anger, frustration, and a fatigue which threatens to exhaust one's very soul.
She told her daughter, "Shoot me first. Don't ever put me in a home."
She really didn't mean those words, but nobody questioned how adamant she was about not going into a nursing home. Long term care was definitely not in the plans, but in the end it became her reality.